This week I’ve been catching up and hanging out with a few of my gorgeous girlfriends and some of the ‘guy talk’ really got me thinking about relationships .
NEW ZEALAND BOY
I had a good old catch up with one of my gorgeous Christian girlfriends, we haven’t chatted for ages and she’s recently met a new guy, so I was just bursting to hear her news and of course all about this new man- ‘New Zealand boy’. She just seemed so happy and glowing, It was as if I could just see her glow, it was just fabulous but really crazy as this was all over the phone!
NEW ZEALAND BOY
I had a good old catch up with one of my gorgeous Christian girlfriends, we haven’t chatted for ages and she’s recently met a new guy, so I was just bursting to hear her news and of course all about this new man- ‘New Zealand boy’. She just seemed so happy and glowing, It was as if I could just see her glow, it was just fabulous but really crazy as this was all over the phone!
It was just the most beautiful moment to hear my gal so happy about life and really optimistic about her new man rather than the play it safe “hoping too much, only sets you up for disappointment” type of mindset many gals have.
It’s so exciting when your gal gets a new guy, especially when he seems to adore her. The tales of his romantic gestures were simply jaw dropping. I was blown away and as she filled me in with all the new relationship happenings and I began to realise that although it was early days he just seemed to cherish her. New Zealand Boy seemed sooooooooooooooo sweet her stories almost gave me a toothache, seriously he just sounded like the sweetest guy .
TEARS
As she spoke tears trickled down my cheeks and my heart began to feel really heavy as I suddenly realised the times in my life where I had allowed men to treat me sooooooooooooooooo badly. It’s sad to admit but I have never fully experienced the sensation she was describing of feeling respected, valued, cherished and treasured by a man and it really hurt me.
WHY?
Why do we do it to ourselves? Why do we settle for such bad treatment in relationships? Why do we put up with mind games and manipulation?
Why don’t we see our worth or value as women? Why don’t we think we deserve more? Why do we accept things in relationships that we would never dream of accepting in the work place or a friendship?
I don’t know about you, but I just find this sooooooooooooooooo frustrating!
The annoying thing is that at times we don’t even see worth in each other, why is it that when we get a missed call or text from the guy we fancy there’s an urgency in our hearts to return the text or call but when it’s a girlfriend (who has always been there for us through thick and thin) there’s sometimes no urgency at all, it’s cool to let them wait and get back to them later.
I don’t know about you, but I just find this sooooooooooooooooo frustrating!
The annoying thing is that at times we don’t even see worth in each other, why is it that when we get a missed call or text from the guy we fancy there’s an urgency in our hearts to return the text or call but when it’s a girlfriend (who has always been there for us through thick and thin) there’s sometimes no urgency at all, it’s cool to let them wait and get back to them later.
Why do we value men over women?
NO SEX
What really got me, was it was clear that they have no plans to have sex before marriage yet she knew exactly how he felt about her and he knew exactly how she felt about him. I could tell they weren’t trying to manipulate each other and after two months they are already ‘boyfriend and girlfriend’. In my life BC (before Christ!), talking about commitment this soon would have been a definite ‘no go’ zone. Two months into my new romance I would have already had sex and would be big-time binge thinking; trying to figure out where the relationship was going and looking for clues to try to solve the mystery of what was really going on in his head.
TRUTH
Understanding the truth of God’s love over the past two years has really helped me to see myself in a whole new light. But if you’ve spent years and years believing lies about yourself it takes time to reprogramme the mind. Following the teachings of Jesus has made a massive difference and not only helped me to exchange lies for truths in my head but the new truths from my Bible have started to sink into my mind and are starting to filter through and affect my attitude and behaviour.
Sooooooooooooooooooo, I don’t proclaim from the rooftops to know all the answers but I’m happy to share some of lessons I’ve learnt so far!
My conviction is that we’ve all been believing a BIG lie with regards to our self - worth as women.
So here are some meaty home truths from the Bible to chew on!
Lesson 1 -So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. Genesis 1 v 27
The Bible teaches that we, both men and women were made in God’s very own image. We were created by God and that makes us so special to him. We all know how Fashion designers are about their precious creations. It's exactly the same with God, so we see and understand from this verse just how precious we REALLY are to God.
Lesson 2 - For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb psalm 139 v13
This teaches us that and I’m sorry to have to be the one to break it to you!
NO SEX
What really got me, was it was clear that they have no plans to have sex before marriage yet she knew exactly how he felt about her and he knew exactly how she felt about him. I could tell they weren’t trying to manipulate each other and after two months they are already ‘boyfriend and girlfriend’. In my life BC (before Christ!), talking about commitment this soon would have been a definite ‘no go’ zone. Two months into my new romance I would have already had sex and would be big-time binge thinking; trying to figure out where the relationship was going and looking for clues to try to solve the mystery of what was really going on in his head.
TRUTH
Understanding the truth of God’s love over the past two years has really helped me to see myself in a whole new light. But if you’ve spent years and years believing lies about yourself it takes time to reprogramme the mind. Following the teachings of Jesus has made a massive difference and not only helped me to exchange lies for truths in my head but the new truths from my Bible have started to sink into my mind and are starting to filter through and affect my attitude and behaviour.
Sooooooooooooooooooo, I don’t proclaim from the rooftops to know all the answers but I’m happy to share some of lessons I’ve learnt so far!
My conviction is that we’ve all been believing a BIG lie with regards to our self - worth as women.
So here are some meaty home truths from the Bible to chew on!
Lesson 1 -So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them. Genesis 1 v 27
The Bible teaches that we, both men and women were made in God’s very own image. We were created by God and that makes us so special to him. We all know how Fashion designers are about their precious creations. It's exactly the same with God, so we see and understand from this verse just how precious we REALLY are to God.
Lesson 2 - For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb psalm 139 v13
This teaches us that and I’m sorry to have to be the one to break it to you!
I know…… it’s so awkward to imagine, but when you were being conceived, there was a lot of sperm wiggling about and God knew exactly which one was going to be you. Our parents may not have planned us but God most definitely did. It’s cringe and crazy but it’s the truth!
Lesson 3 - For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. John 3v16
This teaches us that God loves us and the CROSS screams of his love for us. God loved us soooooooo much that he gave up Jesus (his one and only son), he made a path for us, so we don’t have to perish. It’s truest love I’ve ever experienced.
Lesson 3 - For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only Son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life. John 3v16
This teaches us that God loves us and the CROSS screams of his love for us. God loved us soooooooo much that he gave up Jesus (his one and only son), he made a path for us, so we don’t have to perish. It’s truest love I’ve ever experienced.
God did this so that we would never, EVER be in any doubt of just how much he really does love us. He thought that you and I were actually WORTH dying for!
Isn’t it just amazing that God doesn’t determine our worth and value based on physical beauty, sex appeal, intelligence, athletic ability or talents as he knows this can lead to feelings of inferiority, emptiness, and worthlessness.
Isn’t it just amazing that God doesn’t determine our worth and value based on physical beauty, sex appeal, intelligence, athletic ability or talents as he knows this can lead to feelings of inferiority, emptiness, and worthlessness.
God’s just wants us to grasp his truth and have our self worth as women based in his unchanging biblical truths.
Anyway……. back to the relationships, I really believe some of the reasons we women don’t see our worth and value is simply because see don’t see ourselves as God sees us!
God is re-programming my mind with these truths, and it's really changing the way I look at myself; the way I treat myself and the way I allow myself to be treated by men. The truth is how we view ourselves, will without a doubt affect the way we allow ourselves to be treated.
WE ARE WORTHY
The truth is we are ALL worthy of being the girlfriend, we are ALL worthy of him changing his entire life to factor us in, we are ALL worthy of being respected, we are ALL worthy of a man getting to know our hearts and our minds before he gets to know our bodies. Each of us is so worthy of being loved, adored, cherished and valued by the men, women and children in our lives.
I pray that God will help you (and me) to see our worth clearly as women and allow these truths to change our thinking and affect our behaviour, so that we may truly KNOW our self-worth, because come on ladies seriously………… in the words of L’Oreal BECAUSE YOU ARE WORTH IT!
Anyway……. back to the relationships, I really believe some of the reasons we women don’t see our worth and value is simply because see don’t see ourselves as God sees us!
God is re-programming my mind with these truths, and it's really changing the way I look at myself; the way I treat myself and the way I allow myself to be treated by men. The truth is how we view ourselves, will without a doubt affect the way we allow ourselves to be treated.
WE ARE WORTHY
The truth is we are ALL worthy of being the girlfriend, we are ALL worthy of him changing his entire life to factor us in, we are ALL worthy of being respected, we are ALL worthy of a man getting to know our hearts and our minds before he gets to know our bodies. Each of us is so worthy of being loved, adored, cherished and valued by the men, women and children in our lives.
I pray that God will help you (and me) to see our worth clearly as women and allow these truths to change our thinking and affect our behaviour, so that we may truly KNOW our self-worth, because come on ladies seriously………… in the words of L’Oreal BECAUSE YOU ARE WORTH IT!
BIBLE VERSE IN MY MIND
"Don't become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it, without even thinking. Instead, fix your attention on God. You'll be changed from the inside out." Romans 12 v 2
"Don't become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it, without even thinking. Instead, fix your attention on God. You'll be changed from the inside out." Romans 12 v 2
LET ME KNOW YOUR COMMENTS, THOUGHTS, OPINIONS !!!
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